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Finding love online can feel like trying to find a needle in a haystack — with the added bonus that the haystack is filled with f*ckboys, creeps, and ghosts (and not the friendly Casper kind). I know firsthand the saintlike level of patience it takes to wade through profile after profile, always wondering when you're going to meet someone worth ending the search. Being perpetually single can leave you questioning whether there's some 'it factor' you (or your profile) are lacking. So what are the most attractive traits for online daters?

According to a new report from OkCupid, outspoken, liberal women were more likely to find love online than their conservative counterparts. Gone are the days of the subservient Stepford Wife; now, it's all about independence, confidence, and open-mindedness. So how did OkCupid figure all this out? First, they defined 'successful women' as women who deactivated their profile because they met someone on the site. Then they looked at successful women's answers to their Match Questions to find trends that might indicate what traits they had in common that helped them find love. As it turns out, women who've found a partner on OkCupid shared a lot of left-leaning traits (like supporting marriage equality and being open about sex) in common.

Here are seven things that the OkCupid women with ~success stories~ had in common — BRB, updating my profile.

Compared to women who don't support same-sex marriage, the ladies who do were 85 percent more likely to find someone online. In fact, supporting marriage equality was the most common trait among successful women on OkCupid.

In addition to being open-minded, women who found love online also practice what they preach. Women who answered “Yes” to the question “Do you feel obligated to help your fellow human beings?” were 72 percent more likely to meet a partner. It's heartening to know that being a caring, compassionate human being can also help you find love.

When it comes to politics, women with a liberal point of view were more likely to find success on OkCupid. A prime example? Ladies who believe the public should have access to all literature (regardless of its contents) were 34 percent more likely to meet someone.

On a similar note, women on OKC who believe that religion and law-making shouldn't mingle (aka the separation of church and state) were 30 percent more likely to have romantic success.

There's nothing more important to a healthy relationship than honest, open communication — especially about sex. Women who said they'd answer any of their partner's questions about their sexuality were 33 percent more likely to meet someone. And the successful women of OkCupid don't just like to talk dirty; they take action, too. The report found that women who think 'saving yourself' for marriage is silly were 31 percent more likely to snag a partner.

Successful women on OkCupid agree that masturbation is healthy and normal — even if you're in an exclusive relationship. Women who believe that masturbating when in a relationship does not count as infidelity were 39 percent more likely to find romance.

IMHO, there's nothing sexier than a genuine love of reading, literature, and (of course) grammar. The successful women of OkCupid agree: those who said they were bothered by typos had an increased success rate of 36 percent. They also believe that smart = sexy: women who think education plays a role in attraction were 31 percent more likely to find love.

Even though liberal women might have more success on OkCupid than conservative women, that doesn't change the fact that everyone — regardless of their political leanings — has awesome traits that would bring value to a relationship. If you're open, honest, and unabashedly yourself, there's nothing stopping you from finding love, online or off.

Could this be the definitive answer to what makes a good online dating profile? Maybe! After a conversation with OKCupid co-founder Christian Rudder, NY Mag’s The Cut tracked down four of OKCupid’s most popular New York users to chat with them about the secrets to their success. Here’s what we learned from the women — Lauren, a 23-year-old makeup artist and OKCupid’s most sought-after straight female user, and Kerry, a 26-year-old fashion designer/street artist and the site’s most popular gay female user.

1. Save the dirty talk for later.

Lauren, who receives about three dozen emails from OKC a day, says that a whopping 70 percent of the messages she gets are “straight-up blunt, vulgar shit.” This? Is a total turnoff. “Even if I would just have fun with you…you need to not approach it that way,” she says. Dirty talk is for later on in a relationship, not when you’re trying to impress someone enough to earn a first meeting.

2. Looks matter…

“I’m not a stuck-up girl, but I think looks are No. 1 for everyone,” Lauren says — and she’s probably not wrong. On top of that, there’s an art to taking a good profile picture: Obviously you want to present yourself as well as possible, but you also want to make sure you still look like yourself. Oh, and don’t feel like you have to bare too much. Lauren’s advice? “I believe in a head-to-toe shot to show what you look like, but you don’t need to have your ass hanging out!”

No, Miley. No.

3. …But so do brains.

Lauren’s profile not only features good profile pictures (she’s a good-lookin’ lady, after all), but also smart content. She has an interest in astronomy, which is clearly visible: She has astronomical tattoos on her knuckles showcased in her photos, and she quotes a physicist and links out to NASA’s website. She thinks this might account for her popularity, saying, “Even if an amazingly attractive girl said something stupid in her profile, she’ll still get messages. So I feel like I’m intelligent and people think I look good, so I guess it’s as simple as that?”

4. Beware the “casual sex” box.

I am both not surprised by this and horrified at my lack of surprise, but when Lauren had the “long-term dating,” “short-term dating,” ‘new friends,” and “casual sex” boxes checked for her “I’m looking for…” selections, her inbox exploded with the dirty talk messages we’ve already noted should be avoided. “At first, I thought if you listed ‘casual sex,’ guys would realize that even though I don’t want to be in a relationship with you, we can still go out, get drinks,” Lauren says. “It’s like, I’m not a prostitute. But they don’t get that.” She eventually had to delete her profile and start again, this time only selecting “long-term dating,” “short-term dating,” and “new friends.”

Should we have to worry about this? No. No, we should not. But apparently we do, which sucks. Unless you’re prepared to deal with an awful lot of unwanted come-ons, it might be best to leave the “casual sex” box unchecked.

5. Break some rules.

Kerry’s profile pictures include bathroom selfies, which are normally labeled cliché no-nos; she also doesn’t have any full-body shots, although — as we learned from Lauren — it’s recommended that you have at least one. There’s something to be said for blazing your own trail, regardless of what the “rules” may be.

6. Be brave — and be yourself.

Kerry created her OKCupid profile, selecting “gay girls only,” two years before she came out to her family (with whom, by the way, she has a terrific relationship). “Some people say, ‘I don’t believe in labels,’” she says. “For me, making the profile and saying ‘I’m gay and I want to meet women was a little scary, but it’s who I am.”

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7. Know what you want, and be confident in communicating it.

Kerry says that even though she has “gay girls only” checked, she still gets a lot of messages from straight dudes who want to convert her and straight girls who want to experiment. But, she says, “I’m not interested in being an experiment” — and she sticks to her guns about it.